Ok, so I don't think I'm stupid, but I am impatient sometimes, which gets similar results in the self auto repair business. Anyway, I got my computer flashed and my trailer brakes working (although I haven't pulled the camper anywhere yet). Turns out, after watching several different youtube videos, and getting the good advice on this forum, I activated the trailer options I found under the change configuration setting, but I couldn't find the "enable trailer brake" option. Then I saw that it would be under ITBM somewhere in the long, long list of options. My wife was there and I said, I wish I could just search for it, and she pointed to the search option, that I didn't see, for some reason. I searched for "ITBM" and there is was. I enabled it and then everything worked. I even reinstalled the Amazon control module so I could return the Mopar one and it still worked. My only problem now is, I never could get the "save configuration" button to work.
Thank you to everyone that helped.